Thanks everyone for your really helpful advice. Top editors give you the stories you want delivered right to your inbox each weekday. Hi Ladies and gents. It makes me sick to think how easily I fall into thinking hes a nice guy and that I am not as nice person for thinking unkind (true) thoughts. I was actually relieved when she showed her true feelings on that voice mail message because now I can let everyone who wants to know why I dont have anything to do with her listen to the incredible, unbelievable message she left her daughter. Any use of this site constitutes your agreement to the Terms and Conditions and Privacy Policy linked below. Hmmm. I sent a couple of texts telling him in effect what he did and that it was still not ok or forgotten. This the man Ive been there for who has been very depressed. And go No Contact for as long as you possibly can. We get it all here. The difference is that Ive chosen to use this painful experience to grow as a person and that usually means letting go of the past and never looking back. 5. It's about caring enough about myself to not make myself a doormat ever again, and using the pain as motivation. You hit the nail on the head. If you're unable to move forward without feeling embittered or angry when you think about the incident, then you're probably harboring a grudge. The first two differences is the use of satire. "Choosing to become emotionally detached and uninterested in someone you're trying to forgive. Wanted to see whats going on. It feels hard to not want to be that people pleaser and try. , Committing to someone whos on the fence about you is betrayal of the self. NOTHING, time to live in present and learn/forget my painful past! He also conveniently forget to tell me that his old friend was coming to visit and the relationship is not platonic his words!!! I have no specific information about if he is dating, etc. Thank you. Holding grudges is one of the top ways that people lose valuable relationships. February 28th, 2023. Sometimes, you may find that you're holding a grudge even if you're doing so unintentionally. It would be easy to put myself under a load of pressure to try to do All The Things in the name of book promo, but my body said no to hoeing myself out. I hope you feel better soon. You have to accept that sometimes ignorance is indeed bliss. And I had parental issues I was trying to solve through him. Forgiveness is letting go. He deserves a guilty conscience. Thanks for your well thought out post. You might not think that's what you're doing, but it very well could be. Accessed Nov. 2, 2022. I feel murderous rage toward my egg donor. I would not have been in contact with her this time, except that she was getting a hip replacement and my sister begged me to go to the hospital so she wouldnt have to be with mother alone. I would love to deliver all his stuff to his girlfriend except I wouldnt know which girlfriend to go to.. In some cases, this involves NOT letting them damage their soul and screw up their chances of learning to be healthy and happy by enabling their evil behaviour towards you. He really doesnt deserve a harsh, bitter unforgiving attitude from me. , look Im better than you because Ive forgiven you, you lowlife. Realize this. Ever since then I never got involved with anyone who lived too close to me. We were friends last year and then ended up in bed on new years eve and I was willing to try the relationship again, but he said he didn;t want to, that I destroyed his soul the last time we were in relationship, becasue I was honest with him about his behaviours. Is something wrong with you and your boyfriend? It will be different. Its true that I want to leave with him thinking of me as a good person.
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