Somehow, I have ended up the bad-guy. Does anybody still have bad/sad days 2 years after divorce? crying spells. Do not bad mouth your partner to your children or your friends; this will only act as a catalyst to increase your anger. I often hear wives say things like: "Sure, he's sorry . Intense anger may be the main reason most former spouses have no interest in. The Psychological Effects of Divorce on Kids - Verywell Family - Know I am not happy but it still gives me joy to see my kids and grandkids and makes me smile. In the past 5 years I have gained more confident. Add message Save Share Report Bookmark if I ever get another chance with her I will treat her as a queen . Being the spouse left behind hurts tremendously. They are irritating and dismissive, and predicated on assumptions that may not be true for all of us, including the adage that time heals all wounds. But moving on is not as simple as a prescription, especially when the past is the present, and the present is indeed a bitter pill. Coparenting is difficult. It becomes manageable, but thats about it. This has sent me spiralling downward as this was something the ex an I had planned to doand spend summers with our grandchildren(eventually). I thought is wasnt normal to still feel guilty 10 years later. They touched upon painful feelings, paranoia, debt, and loss of friends. Now my one son and his fianc are choosing the dads side and have minimal contact with my older son, my husband and myself. Just an occasional issue with finances. The rise of 'gray divorce,' as couples over age 50 split. irritability. As I feel like I should be over it 6 years on but Im not. Recognize this for what it is: A personal full-blown pity party. Because she is grieving a death A death she may have chosen A death he may have chosen But it is a death, nonetheless. Believe me, I've gotten my share of wide eyes of surprise when I say that I'm not interested in dating. I thought I was going to be married for ever to the man I said my vows to through thick and thin, I never imagined it not lasting. Do those things! We met my freshman year of college and I truely feel that he shaped who I am today in the most positive way anyone ever could and then I left him. I believe scars remain, but forgiveness can set us free still, it is a choice we make each time the pain appears. After 28 years, my husband wanted a life with a very younger woman and has subsequently erased his family. I had a gnawing feeling when I left him that I was "slitting my own throat" and now I know that is true. The Pain of Divorce 10 Years Later - Mental Itch He didnt ask for forgiveness, nor can I find it in my heart to forgive him the hurt and emptiness is too deep. Never have found out exact reason, except maybe money. Am I happy where I am now, DEFINITELY. I am glad I read this. Thank God I found this. We spoke to 12 men about life after divorce. Moving on after divorce is hard when all you do is live the past instead of the present.
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